Time marches on doesn't it? We are pretty much hanging out at home these days while we pray this "COVID19" outbreak levels off to manageable numbers and reduces the death toll. Serious stuff and strange times we live in. We moved into our home in 2005, mama was not yet suffering from dementia and still driving. She visited me regularly. As one particular visit ended and I walked her out as I usually did, she said, "oh, I brought you something."
From her trunk she pulled out a stick wrapped in a damp paper towel and foil. It was close to 10" long, w/a nice green ctr and a stem about 5" long on it. "It's a flowering Plum tree from mine. It needs well-draining soil and 5-6 hours sun each day. I suppose right beside the driveway would be a good spot" as she turned to look and make sure it would receive enough sunlight.
I planted it right where she said. You were right mama. It has thrived there. (now offering off-shoots 6' or taller.)
Every time I pull into the driveway I see the Flowering Plum tree and am reminded of my mother.
My mama was the kind of woman you would sometime find poking around on the side of the road, if something caught her eye. She dug up double blooming day lilies (tagging them with string while blooming and coming back when blooming was done)
She once brought me an almost 3-4' tall Hemlock tree she found growing on the side of the road, on the way back from Tennessee. I honestly don't know how she spotted it on the side of the road but she had a keen eye for things she loved. Her sister and brother-in-law were with her. My Uncle Hub helped her dig it up, she said while her sister kept saying, "I can't believe you are digging up a tree on the side of the road, Mary?!"
[Eventually it would have looked like this one]
She carried a small shovel, brown paper groceries bags and a plastic bag or two in her trunk all the time. Just in case she came across something amazing. "It's a Hemlock, Lora!" Quite surprised my Aunt Lora did not feel the same value in the little tree.
I imagine them riding down the road w/the Hemlock in the back seat floor board (no way it fit in the trunk, that little tree was as wide as it was tall at the base) It was close to 4' tall at the time. It must have been resting on the seat to hang in the back window.. Aunt Lora or Uncle Hub sitting beside it. I'm guessing he offered to sit in the back, always the consummate gentleman. I planted that little tree AND my husband moved it to the river house when we were building there. He place it safely in the edge of the woods next to the front yard. The plan was to move it again when the house and yard were finished. It was not to be. An Alabama Power truck ran over it while putting in our power poles. I cried like a baby over that little tree, now nearly 8 ft tall. He apologized and promised AP would pay for it but what he didn't understand was it wasn't just a tree.
That little tree represented a part of who my mother was, a love for something that she and I shared. It made me smile when I watered it thinking of my Uncle Hub digging while they all talked over that little tree on the side of the road. It was alive, like they were then, all three of them. Only a few years later my Aunt Lora would be gone.
Today, we live without all three of those wonderful relatives and I miss them. God's promises say we will see them again and I look forward to that day. Until then, I have this beautiful Flowering Plum beside the driveway beckoning spring. I can hear my mother telling me those shoots have got to be moved next winter. Yes, I know they do mama, I'll get it done.
Maybe one of my children or one of the nieces or nephew will want one to plant in their yard. It will remind them of mama as well. I snapped this picture on a recent overcast day. We've had many gray days lately with much rain. But the rain makes my trees grow, it feeds the yellow bell from Grandaddy's home place, my mothers first home, the Irises that will soon be bursting with blooms as well as the grass which will be lush and green. It's all in how
you choose to look at it.
You see we can't control how COVID19 or any other disease will affect us or what's to happen in the coming days, not really. While being obedient to the call to stay home and practice social distancing, I can control what my thoughts dwell on. I turn off the news because I have no control over it or the situation beyond my own choices. I can pray for the situation earnestly.
I can look forward to a beautiful spring because the living things will continue to grow, I hear the ducks and geese on the lake. The dogwood have begun to bloom.
I can find Joy in everyday things~ the rain and peaceful days at home. I have some things to move and plant in my yard when the days are sunny again. I'm waiting for a sunny day to get my hands in the dirt again.
There's to be a new baby in the family this year, I'm very excited about that.
I bought a little hand made set of wind chimes from the maker to hang outside, I'm looking for the right tree limb where there's nice breezes to bring them to life. I have cushions to sew and clients who will be ready to get out when the covid danger is passed and shop my jewelry again.
I hope and pray these days at home teach us all how to be content in our surroundings, how to listen to our loved ones again- really listen, look into each others eyes and laugh out loud at the things we share. Maybe even slow us down a bit.
Yes, joy and contentment are definitely a choice.